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When your greatest strength becomes your biggest challenge

The part nobody mentions first

When people hear that Strengthscope is a strengths-based tool, they assume it's going to be affirming. And it is - up to a point. There's genuine pleasure in seeing your Significant Seven laid out clearly, in recognising yourself in the descriptions, in feeling seen rather than assessed.

But there's another layer to Strengthscope that I think is actually more useful. And it's the part that tends to make people go very quiet in a session.

Every strength has a risk factor. A way it can tip - not into weakness exactly, but into overdrive. When you're stressed, stretched, running on empty, or simply caring too much about something, your strengths don't disappear. They amplify. And an amplified strength, without awareness, can cause exactly the kind of damage you'd least expect from something that's genuinely yours at your best.

If you've seen my wheel from last week's post, you'll already know that Enthusiasm sits as one of my longest bars. Which makes what I'm about to share feel particularly relevant...

What overdrive looks like in practice

Let me give you an example. My own.

Enthusiasm is one of my Significant Seven strengths. It's real, it's genuine, and it's one of the things I think serves my clients well. When someone is stuck or uncertain, enthusiasm - the real kind, not the performed kind - can be quietly contagious. It creates energy in a room. It signals belief.

But enthusiasm in overdrive? That's a different thing entirely.

I've had moments - more than I'd like to admit - where my enthusiasm has bulldozed the people around me. Where I've been so energised by an idea, so certain of its value, so eager to share it, that I've stopped leaving room for anyone else to arrive at their own conclusions. Colleagues have disengaged not because they disagreed, but because there was no space left for them in the conversation.

When I saw that reflected in my Strengthscope feedback, I recognised it immediately. The uncomfortable kind of recognition - the kind where you know it's true before you've finished reading it.

What helped me was dialling up Emotional Control - another of my strengths, but one I wasn't drawing on deliberately enough. Emotional Control, for me, means being aware of my triggers, noticing when I'm starting to run hot, and choosing to stay calm and present rather than letting the energy carry me somewhere unhelpful. It didn't mean dampening my enthusiasm. It meant learning to hold it more lightly.

The same strength, a different path through

I worked with a client who had the same overdrive pattern - Enthusiasm tipping into something that left her colleagues feeling steamrolled rather than energised. Her team had started to disengage in meetings, and she couldn't understand why. She was bringing energy, ideas, momentum. What wasn't landing?

What she discovered through her Strengthscope work was that she needed to dial up something different from me. For her, the counterbalance was Compassion and Empathy - strengths she had, but hadn't been consciously bringing into those moments. When she started actively trying to understand how her colleagues were experiencing her enthusiasm, rather than simply expressing it, something shifted. The energy was still there. But now it was in conversation with the room rather than filling it up unilaterally.

Same strength in overdrive. Different strengths to rebalance it. That's what makes this work personal rather than formulaic.

A moment of honesty about this very series

Here's something I've been sitting with as I write these posts.

I am genuinely, deeply enthusiastic about Strengthscope. I've seen what it does for people. I believe in it. And I'm aware - because I've done enough of my own work to notice - that this enthusiasm carries a risk. That in trying to share something I love, I might tip into advocacy so strong it starts to feel like pressure. That I might write six posts about a tool and somewhere along the way lose the reader who just wanted to understand, not be convinced.

If that's happened at any point in this series, I'd genuinely want to know!

What I can tell you is that the risk factor I'm most alert to, writing these posts, is my own Enthusiasm in overdrive. And I think that's exactly how Strengthscope is supposed to work - not as a one-time insight, but as a lens you keep looking through, including at yourself.

What to do with this

If you've ever been told you're "a lot" - too intense, too driven, too focused, too warm - it's worth asking whether what's being described is a strength that's lost its calibration rather than a flaw that needs fixing.

The answer probably isn't to turn it down. It's to find the other strengths that help you hold it well.

And if you're curious what your own risk factors might be... that's exactly the kind of thing your Strengthscope wheel can show you.